I’m a DIY-girl through and through, so don’t get me wrong when I tell you not to go it alone. There are definitely aspects of planning any event that you can do completely by yourself, and all the more power to you if you tackle some DIY projects along the road. But I promise you that you’re bound to crack under the pressure eventually if you’re planning AND executing all the parts of a party all by yourself. I’ve definitely fallen into this pattern myself being a Type-A perfectionist not to mention just generally proud and stubborn. It’s been a slow learning process that I work best when I accept help and especially now as a business owner it’s crucial for me to have my team there with me every step of the way. They ensure I don’t miss out on planning anything ahead of time and then can execute every event flawlessly (because the hitches don’t count if you can fix them, right?)
If you’re not convinced, then keep on reading because you’re bound to run into these road bumps:
- You are NOT a superhero. Do I really need to tell you this one? Everyone needs rest (have you read the latest on sleep studies?!) and there are still only 24 hours in a day. I truly don’t know how Joanna Gaines does it, she’s my hero, but for most people it’s not a sustainable lifestyle to work at work then come home and work more and then sleep just a little bit with some food thrown in too. We all have limits and I’m for sure still learning mine, but accepting them and then optimizing your own talents while outsourcing help to others to maximize your output is key. Did I use enough buzzwords there?
- You’ll get overwhelmed and stressed out. I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir here, but too bad, I had to say it! Often times we don’t realize how much we have signed ourselves up for and it comes close to the deadline and you’ve still got a bunch of work left to do. Reviewing your running to-do list might give you tummy aches or keep you up at night because it feels like you’ll never be able to check everything off in time. Being stressed out and overwhelmed is a major joy-stealer and takes all the fun right out of those tasks. Delegate, people!!
- You’ll become resentful. This is the next stage right after being overwhelmed and stressed out, and when all the ugly comes out, or worse, gets held in. You’ll get mad at yourself and lay the blame for not planning better and managing your time better. You might even have misplaced anger and resentment at other people for not being able to read your mind, not offering to help you, or not doing something on par with your standards. No one likes those nasty feelings, so make sure you treat yourself kindly, and others too!
- Things will slip through the cracks. That’s probably your worst nightmare, isn’t it?! I know it’s one of mine. Those beautiful details you planned? The traditions you wanted to maintain? When you’re taking care of everything yourself, there’s bound to be something that doesn’t happen and you might be kicking yourself afterward. Even something small, like not having the candles lit, or something bigger like forgetting to move your engagement ring to the right hand before walking down the aisle. I’m a firm believer that it’s better to be reminded too much (even when it’s annoying) than not reminded enough and it’s forgotten about.
- You’re stealing joy! You heard me. And it’s not just your own joy, either (see above on stress being a joy-stealer). By not accepting help when it’s offered or reaching out and asking others for extra help, you’re creating a vacuum around yourself and may not even realize that many people would find joy in helping you. You’re depriving all those people that love to serve others of doing their favorite thing. AND you’re depriving both you and them of spending time together tackling tasks that will leave everyone feeling accomplished! Spreading tasks is spreading happiness.
I’ve got GREAT news for you though! The key is so simple. Ask for and accept help and delegate! People, namely family and friends, are almost always ready and willing to help! It’s also super fun to work together on projects and will make it go so much faster while creating cheery memories. Bite the bullet and send that text or email or hey, even make a phone call, then grab your favorite drink and snacks and have a gal pal party to knock down that task list!
Bonus, I promise there will be another blog soon about how to get (and keep!) helping hands for any event or project if you’re having trouble finding helpers or keeping the delegated tasks organized.